Love is sweet, yes.

But are you sweet?

I've always aspired to be the evidence that you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Love is sweet, yes. With the right person, it's sweeter, yes. But are you the right person for yourself?

Everyone wants to fall in love, but are you ready to love? Do you know the type of romance you are worth, or you are just okay settling for bare minimum because you think that's what you deserve? Or is it as Ebun wrote in one of his newsletter… “Are you desperate to love or to be loved?” Are you seeking love because of some deep-seated need to fill a void?

We are always going on and on about finding “the one”, but do we look deep into ourselves and ask ourselves if we can be “the one” for someone. We talk about finding the right person, but what does it even mean to be the right person for yourself? It's not about being perfect, achieving some impossible ideal, but about cultivating some deep sense of self understanding, self compassion, and inner peace. It's a continuous journey and not a destination.

We often forget that loving ourselves makes it easy for others to love us, and the worth we attribute to ourselves is reflected in how others perceive us. We are often more compassionate with others than we are with ourselves.

You are looking for love, but you are the kind of person that makes people happy, dashes out compliment without expecting it back, wave at babies and stroke cats. You are the kind of love you are looking for, any other thing is complimentary. You are the very embodiment of the love you are looking for. Any romantic love you might stumble upon should be an extra layer, that compliments the foundation you already built within yourself. It should be additive, not something that defines your worth.

So, before we rush into the hands of another, we must first ask : are you the right person for yourself? This isn't about being selfish; it's about acknowledging the need for self love as the bedrock for any truly fulfilling relationship.

…And like any other relationship, it just gets better and better as the year rolls on. So, keep looking, don't settle.

~Steve Jobs

Your anonymous bestie, Ree🤍

30 posts, 10 drafts, and 202 subscribers later, we are here…

Thank you so much for always reading, commenting, restacking, and making me feel heard. I love you all so much.❤️

Happy new year 🎉❤️. Wishing you a New Year filled with self love that makes you glow! 🌟

And yes, I know you see the ring! So, in case you come across my wedding invitation, don't come at me with, “Ree, you said you didn't need a relationship to be happy!” I'm allowed to change my mind, okay? People evolve, and sometimes, they evolve towards a wedding.

(It's not a real ring, yet. Soon, maybe.)

Your anonymous bestie

Ree🤍